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Know yourself,to fix yourself.

Read between the lines: It’s important to say positive things about oneself.

I had a class this Monday and usually, I have my mind on stuff outside the lecture, but today something got my attention. Our lecturer asked us to make a hypothetical advertisement for a phone. We all got down to designing phones and trying to make one that’s really unique. People did go ahead and tried to make outstanding designs as they all wanted to be the best. When we had all presented our ideas, he said;

“The same way you’ve all tried to think outside the box and make a phone brand that’s unique and would make people want to buy it, is the same way you should try to brand yourself.”

And I was like, “Wow. Okay” I did need that message this Monday as I was personally going through an awkward period of not appreciating myself. The effort I put in to designing my phone advertisement is the same effort I should put in to myself because that way I’ll be able to stand out from those around me plus be appreciated by myself and also the people that see me.

So maybe today I’m not talking about something that personally relates to you right now, but I would like you to keep in mind that you are a project that you should make a priority. Keep working on yourself so that you are able to stand out from the crowd. It will also leave you feeling better about who you are. Have a blessed week and month.

To your health

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Random thought.

“And I am learning that the love in the movies is a lie, for no one will want to sit up on a rooftop with you while you watch the sunrise, and talk about the reasons as to why you’re fucked up. No one will beat up or hit the one that messed you up. No one will appreciate you speaking your mind, for that’s only a factor they appreciate when they don’t have you yet. I know there’s somebody for everyone. But what if you could be the one for me? What if you changed, for me? What if you sat up on that rooftop and listened while I cried about all the times I felt worthless? What if we counted all the scars and tried to figure out how to get them to fade? What if you listened to my endless ranting and only appreciated it? That would make you the person for me. I know it. And I would be ready to become the person for you.”
-excerpt from a book I’ll never write.

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How to find your real self this year.

The second chapter of the 12 chapter book is coming upon us and it’s best to start reading it with a fresh perspective.

Wheeww!! 2020 has already been a whole rollercoaster if you ask me. And it’s just January!! We had the World War Three episode and then the actual Coronavirus going on. I do hope everyone is safe. I’m just here to give a couple of tips to anyone that needs them. I’ve personally started on some of these, and I am getting better already.

Let’s get right in to it! Since February is coming up, it’s time to accomplish those goals you set for January but never got round to actually finishing.

If you want to find your real self this 2020, try to read everything; books, poems, scripts, name it. Start writing Poetry and travel. Become productive. Put yourself and your goals first, take care of your skin, put good food in your body, save money and stay away from negativity and drama, especially not start drama ( so important). You should bury your past negative self while still honouring that person you were. That’s the journey to discover who you really are.

I wanted this to be really brief, but if you would like me to get in to details, recommend a couple of books or skin products or basically anything, be sure to let me know. Have a fun discovery!

To your health.

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Fake energy, stay far away.

This year I only want to be around people that love me, not those that pretend they do.

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“But she wouldn’t do that to me, we have been friends for so long. ” A common tale. As social animals, man tends to reach out to those around them to establish bonds called friendship but in today’s society, most of these ties have become emotionally draining and don’t necessarily give you the zeal to associate.

These days, you may think you know someone so well. You think there isn’t a knife in your back. And then they twist it. (popularly known as backstabbing.)

I am sure most of you know how to identify fake friends so I won’t get deep into it. (unless otherwise)

A scene from F. R. I. E. N. D. S (a popular series)

Once we leave high school, we see who your real friends are. You learn that people change. Someone who you thought was your best friend will cut you off completely. Some of us enter high school with plenty of friends and end with only a few close ones. Others of us enter high school with only a few close friends and end with no friends at all. It’s just how life is. It’s like that sometimes. It is awful but it happens to almost everyone.

But then the big questions are:

Are you a real friend to your friends? Are these real friends to you?

Identify your real friends then try to keep them so that you don’t keep the cycle of fake friends going.

1. Be kind to your friends and listen to them. Discarding your friends’ opinions or concerns can get you a spot as a fake friend especially if your friend is usually on the listening end of your troubles so try to listen to them even if you feel like what they are saying to you is not so relevant.

2. When a person trusts you, value that trust. Getting to trust someone is not easy so when someone entrusts you with information or a secret, treasure that and do not tell on them. Betraying someone is one of the traits of a fake friend.

3. Do not try to be friends with everyone. I read a quote somewhere that said, “A friend to all is a friend to none. ” and I concur. I believe that no one would want to trust someone that seems to talk to everyone just in case their secrets get out. One thing to remember also is a smaller circle only means less drama.

4. Do not get in to a friendship based on expectations. If you are with someone for something other than love and mutual understanding, then I’ll have you know that you have merely made that person your acquaintance and you should not make them rely on you as a friend.

5. Love and love genuinely. Love from the bottom of your heart. Love unconditionally. Love even in their toughest moments. Real friends are always there no matter how hard a situation is.

Real friends contribute to someone having mental peace and if you aren’t one, please stop keeping someone up all night thinking they have something wrong with them. Be all in or not at all and see how your friendships get better.
I’ll expand on this topic if need be.

To your health ❤