I had a class this Monday and usually, I have my mind on stuff outside the lecture, but today something got my attention. Our lecturer asked us to make a hypothetical advertisement for a phone. We all got down to designing phones and trying to make one that’s really unique. People did go ahead and tried to make outstanding designs as they all wanted to be the best. When we had all presented our ideas, he said;
“The same way you’ve all tried to think outside the box and make a phone brand that’s unique and would make people want to buy it, is the same way you should try to brand yourself.”
And I was like, “Wow. Okay” I did need that message this Monday as I was personally going through an awkward period of not appreciating myself. The effort I put in to designing my phone advertisement is the same effort I should put in to myself because that way I’ll be able to stand out from those around me plus be appreciated by myself and also the people that see me.
So maybe today I’m not talking about something that personally relates to you right now, but I would like you to keep in mind that you are a project that you should make a priority. Keep working on yourself so that you are able to stand out from the crowd. It will also leave you feeling better about who you are. Have a blessed week and month.
“And I am learning that the love in the movies is a lie, for no one will want to sit up on a rooftop with you while you watch the sunrise, and talk about the reasons as to why you’re fucked up. No one will beat up or hit the one that messed you up. No one will appreciate you speaking your mind, for that’s only a factor they appreciate when they don’t have you yet. I know there’s somebody for everyone. But what if you could be the one for me? What if you changed, for me? What if you sat up on that rooftop and listened while I cried about all the times I felt worthless? What if we counted all the scars and tried to figure out how to get them to fade? What if you listened to my endless ranting and only appreciated it? That would make you the person for me. I know it. And I would be ready to become the person for you.” -excerpt from a book I’ll never write.
Wheeww!! 2020 has already been a whole rollercoaster if you ask me. And it’s just January!! We had the World War Three episode and then the actual Coronavirus going on. I do hope everyone is safe. I’m just here to give a couple of tips to anyone that needs them. I’ve personally started on some of these, and I am getting better already.
Let’s get right in to it! Since February is coming up, it’s time to accomplish those goals you set for January but never got round to actually finishing.
If you want to find your real self this 2020, try to read everything; books, poems, scripts, name it. Start writing Poetry and travel. Become productive. Put yourself and your goals first, take care of your skin, put good food in your body, save money and stay away from negativity and drama, especially not start drama ( so important). You should bury your past negative self while still honouring that person you were. That’s the journey to discover who you really are.
I wanted this to be really brief, but if you would like me to get in to details, recommend a couple of books or skin products or basically anything, be sure to let me know. Have a fun discovery!
In my earlier posts, I once mentioned “comparison will kill you.” And that is still what I stand by, but what if it was positive comparison? What if you compared yourself to your younger self? The self that let in toxic people? The self that put up with abuse? The self that wallowed in self pity? If you look within yourself right now, have you grown? Have you stopped putting up with toxic relationships? How far have you come with turning down negativity?
If it’s a long way, then kudos! When you compare yourself with you, you grow within yourself.
Beginnings are always hard, my love. Whether you are starting a new year of school, decided to switch your job, have moved to a new town, or ended or began a relationship, the first days, weeks, or even months are going to be hard. But that is completely okay. It doesn’t mean that you are doing the wrong thing. Your life is changing, maybe even drastically changing, of course you will need some time to get used to it. Do not judge yourself or the situation based on how overwhelmed, stressed, lonely or sad you may feel in the beginning. Give it time. Eventually you will adjust and you will feel that you made the right decision. Do not give up yet – hang in there, for you might not be far from happiness.