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Know yourself,to fix yourself.

Read between the lines: It’s important to say positive things about oneself.

I had a class this Monday and usually, I have my mind on stuff outside the lecture, but today something got my attention. Our lecturer asked us to make a hypothetical advertisement for a phone. We all got down to designing phones and trying to make one that’s really unique. People did go ahead and tried to make outstanding designs as they all wanted to be the best. When we had all presented our ideas, he said;

“The same way you’ve all tried to think outside the box and make a phone brand that’s unique and would make people want to buy it, is the same way you should try to brand yourself.”

And I was like, “Wow. Okay” I did need that message this Monday as I was personally going through an awkward period of not appreciating myself. The effort I put in to designing my phone advertisement is the same effort I should put in to myself because that way I’ll be able to stand out from those around me plus be appreciated by myself and also the people that see me.

So maybe today I’m not talking about something that personally relates to you right now, but I would like you to keep in mind that you are a project that you should make a priority. Keep working on yourself so that you are able to stand out from the crowd. It will also leave you feeling better about who you are. Have a blessed week and month.

To your health

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How to find your real self this year.

The second chapter of the 12 chapter book is coming upon us and it’s best to start reading it with a fresh perspective.

Wheeww!! 2020 has already been a whole rollercoaster if you ask me. And it’s just January!! We had the World War Three episode and then the actual Coronavirus going on. I do hope everyone is safe. I’m just here to give a couple of tips to anyone that needs them. I’ve personally started on some of these, and I am getting better already.

Let’s get right in to it! Since February is coming up, it’s time to accomplish those goals you set for January but never got round to actually finishing.

If you want to find your real self this 2020, try to read everything; books, poems, scripts, name it. Start writing Poetry and travel. Become productive. Put yourself and your goals first, take care of your skin, put good food in your body, save money and stay away from negativity and drama, especially not start drama ( so important). You should bury your past negative self while still honouring that person you were. That’s the journey to discover who you really are.

I wanted this to be really brief, but if you would like me to get in to details, recommend a couple of books or skin products or basically anything, be sure to let me know. Have a fun discovery!

To your health.

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Daily positive affirmation: 3rd January, 2020

Positive self comparison goes along way in making one better.

In my earlier posts, I once mentioned “comparison will kill you.” And that is still what I stand by, but what if it was positive comparison? What if you compared yourself to your younger self? The self that let in toxic people? The self that put up with abuse? The self that wallowed in self pity? If you look within yourself right now, have you grown? Have you stopped putting up with toxic relationships? How far have you come with turning down negativity?

If it’s a long way, then kudos! When you compare yourself with you, you grow within yourself.

On this day, I hope you flourish. Happy new year!

To your health.

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Daily positive Affirmation.

Compliment yourself.

This is all part of self love. Compliment yourself as you would a friend or a lover. Look in the mirror and voice out:

“You’re beautiful, you’re worthy, you’re loved and you’re enough. “

Doing this every morning can boost one’s self esteem and confidence.

To your health ❤

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How to love yourself.

“And if I asked you to name all the things that you love, how long would you take to say your name?”

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Hope you are ready for your self love journey.

I don’t know about you but I’ve had days where I have woken up, and looked in the mirror and not liked what I see.
I’ve had days when I sat in my room obsessing over the fact that I didn’t look a certain type of way and all I can say is it is not a great feeling.

One of the reasons I actually wrote this post was because of a tweet I read. It spoke to me.

Stop putting things before yourself.

(I defined clout in one of my Posts)

Self love comes with knowing the real you. You cannot love something or someone you do not know so in the same way, get to know yourself. That way, you’ll be able to love yourself .

Exploring who you are is no easy feat. Honestly! But I am here to help you figure it out.
First I want to give you some things to remember. As you progress in this journey of life, you need to have a strong mindset.

  • Self love has nothing to do with others. Respect yourself and exhibit some sort of self-esteem. Knowing that no matter what cruel things the world may throw your way, you are a unique individual with complexity that needs not to be understood. We are our own biggest critic but don’t critique yourself into depression. We all have depressive moments often in our lives, make sure to love your self when it seems as if nothing else in the world has love to give.
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  • Make yourself a priority. Be kind to others but if something isn’t kind to your soul, don’t engage in it.
  • Remember you are stuck with yourself forever. Most people and things that we have in our lives are temporary and they are just passing by.
  • You are enough. Have always been and you will always be. One of the positive affirmations I tell myself when I feel low or not good enough. Short as it may seem, it goes a long way in making you feel worthy.
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  • In order to love yourself, you cannot hate the experiences that shaped you. Embrace your past and the lessons it taught you. That way you make peace with it and it can’t make you feel worse.

So some of the ways you can start your self love journey are right here and they don’t cost a penny.

  • Get enough rest. Sleep, take power naps or whatever gets your body some rest. That way, you get up feeling better and ready to tackle your challenges.
  • Exercise and drink a lot of water. The body is ours to take care of and if we don’t keep it in good shape and a healthy state, we definitely end up feeling worse about ourselves.
  • Keep a journal. I know some people do not like writing that much but one thing about keeping a journal is that it is at your own pace. You don’t need to write in it everyday and you get to add whatever you feel like. If you’re wondering what to write in it, try writing what you love about yourself or the good things in your life, your dreams and aspirations, your to do list or any random stuff you see when you go out in the world. When you regularly do that, trust me you’ll be able to get stuff off your mind and in to your trusty journal.
  • Make a list of positive affirmations and read it everyday. Even better, you could record it and listen to it whenever you feel low. If you aren’t your number one support system, then other people can not be able to support you that well. (refer to the above image for some examples.)
  • Know what you want and don’t settle for less. Sometimes we take what’s on the table when we don’t have many options but when you are in control, never ever let yourself get half things. It’s like putting so much effort in to making a cake and you let it come out half baked. Do not accept half love, half friendships, half relationships. Generally anything that doesn’t make you feel so good about yourself shouldn’t be in your life.
  • That takes us to the next point. Surround yourself with people that make you feel better. Be it friends, partners and even family. You have the right to choose who goes and who stays. It’s your life after all.
  • Take care of yourself. This can be in the small ways like getting up, saying a prayer, washing up and dressing nice. It goes all the way to buying Yourself something nice or taking yourself on a vacation. Treat yourself right.
  • In the world we live in today, social media has brought up most of the issues people face concerning self love. So take a break. I discussed This is in Confessions of a Socialholic. Do check it out if you need it.
  • Make a playlist for yourself. Music is a drug. It’s like therapy. I have a couple of friends that say music healed them and it helps me too. There’s no greater joy than plugging in your earphones and vibing to something beautiful. It helps you to also get in tune with your soul. I shall compile a playlist in the next post with a couple of self love songs from different genres to start with.

I know it is hard, but if you are trying, that is enough.

You are enough.

To your health ❤

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Fake energy, stay far away.

This year I only want to be around people that love me, not those that pretend they do.

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“But she wouldn’t do that to me, we have been friends for so long. ” A common tale. As social animals, man tends to reach out to those around them to establish bonds called friendship but in today’s society, most of these ties have become emotionally draining and don’t necessarily give you the zeal to associate.

These days, you may think you know someone so well. You think there isn’t a knife in your back. And then they twist it. (popularly known as backstabbing.)

I am sure most of you know how to identify fake friends so I won’t get deep into it. (unless otherwise)

A scene from F. R. I. E. N. D. S (a popular series)

Once we leave high school, we see who your real friends are. You learn that people change. Someone who you thought was your best friend will cut you off completely. Some of us enter high school with plenty of friends and end with only a few close ones. Others of us enter high school with only a few close friends and end with no friends at all. It’s just how life is. It’s like that sometimes. It is awful but it happens to almost everyone.

But then the big questions are:

Are you a real friend to your friends? Are these real friends to you?

Identify your real friends then try to keep them so that you don’t keep the cycle of fake friends going.

1. Be kind to your friends and listen to them. Discarding your friends’ opinions or concerns can get you a spot as a fake friend especially if your friend is usually on the listening end of your troubles so try to listen to them even if you feel like what they are saying to you is not so relevant.

2. When a person trusts you, value that trust. Getting to trust someone is not easy so when someone entrusts you with information or a secret, treasure that and do not tell on them. Betraying someone is one of the traits of a fake friend.

3. Do not try to be friends with everyone. I read a quote somewhere that said, “A friend to all is a friend to none. ” and I concur. I believe that no one would want to trust someone that seems to talk to everyone just in case their secrets get out. One thing to remember also is a smaller circle only means less drama.

4. Do not get in to a friendship based on expectations. If you are with someone for something other than love and mutual understanding, then I’ll have you know that you have merely made that person your acquaintance and you should not make them rely on you as a friend.

5. Love and love genuinely. Love from the bottom of your heart. Love unconditionally. Love even in their toughest moments. Real friends are always there no matter how hard a situation is.

Real friends contribute to someone having mental peace and if you aren’t one, please stop keeping someone up all night thinking they have something wrong with them. Be all in or not at all and see how your friendships get better.
I’ll expand on this topic if need be.

To your health ❤